Sunday, February 27, 2011

Homeschool isn't for everyone

I have to give in to the above statement sometimes b/c you can't can't just go around being all preachy about the way you raise your kids.  Truthfully though the further i go on this journey with still so many more miles to go, I agree that homeschool isn't for everybody but home is still the best place for kids.  Unless a parent is seriously abusing a child then really the best place for that kid is at home.  The use of the word,"home" for this post means anywhere but in a tradtitional school. 
I keep traveling further and further away from accpeting that this is just what works best for our family and I keep running into example after example that this is really what works best for kids.  I understand the complete life change it would mean.  No more free babysitting, no more guarantee that  kids were learning the right thing at the right time and the right way(As if there were such a thing)  That must be a scary hurdle to jump but if we collectively can get off this Fred Flintstone highway of schooling kids and calling each new rule and obstacle and format , Education reform, then we can really educate the kids and no one need worry that the kid wasn't learning, "right" 
From the outside people think we homeschool parents are doing the job of parent and school. This is not true for most of us,   in fact we do only the one job, parent.  I mean I know several parents who send thier  kids to school but still feel like the primary educator of thier child, these parents assure me in light hearted conversations that thier kids will be fine b/c they, the parents, take the kids to museums or on educational vacations or play math games, or even spend hours doing with homework with them.  So why not eliminate the middle man who keeps messing things up? 
I do feel like this country could run so much more efficietnly if we didn't pigeon hole and quarantine off our kids for so many hours a day. 
Let them out in this big world to learn all the time.  Unlock the kids and get them on the streets.  If school is a necessary babysitter than let's call it that and not make anything that happens in there mandatory but just a place to go for some enrichement while mom or dad is at work. 
Take the self importnace out of the school and put it back on the family.  Reconnect with siblings and parents and let the certified teachers take second fiddle row in your child's orchestra.

3 comments:

Janet Costello said...

I find it really difficult to convey the joy, peace, opportunity, learning and family fun that can result from a relaxed homeschool environment. I think we live the 'best kept secret' that I would be willing to share with anyone who wants to know.

hipumpkins said...

I agree with you.

The Guptas said...

I agree with everything that you say. People don't get it. They don't get the "upside." I was recently asked if my kids were getting on my nerves yet. I told them that we have bad days (or really bad mornings or afternoons, bad moments) but, all in all, we are having a great time.

My oldest daughter went to school through 1st grade. I gave the school system a try. I wanted to believe in it. But I could clearly see what my children needed and what they were getting and there were way too many disconnects; too many red flags.

I recently commented to someone that I think the public school system is cannibalizing itself because parents complain and complain and do nothing. It's not just homeschoolers giving the system a bad name and "demonizing" it. Public school parents can do a find job of demonizing it all on their own!

Yet, those same parents that complain and do nothing, scoff at me. If they complain to me (which sometimes I think I have a neon sign on my head that says "I want to hear your complaints"), I can't really say anything in return because then I'm trying to talk them into doing something "extreme." So, fine, sit around and be miserable for the next 12 years.

I agree that parents will say "but I take them to museums." Hopefully those kids appreciate it. Too often, when we go places with kids that go to school, I see a lack of enthusiasm in them because doing anything educational is too much like going to school. Plus, parents can't really embellish what they've learned in school while at those museums because they are so far removed from understanding what their children may have actually learned. They can argue against that but, until you homeschool, you may not fully realize how disconnected you are.

Oh, I could go on and on.... Good post. Thanks!!

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